In South Africa we have leaders, and it’s also sad that we need leaders – South Africa is a sh*t hole.

It is of a great sadness that government leaders don’t have the brains and necessary qualities to be leaders. The only thing making them leaders is the country’s inability to appoint good people for such positions. The country can not stand on its own because we don’t have the legs to do so – wait, did I say legs?! I meant the brains at the top. The leaders we have can only do things by the book, they cannot innovate, they cannot turn a situation upside down to address the problem or to get the best solution for a problem. Basically they don’t have the brains. In another words, we are sailing blind. 

I call South Africa a country of endless problems, unsolved. Including the leaders themselves. They’re the first problem the country has. I mean how do we expect a disease to be a cure of the same disease. The majority of us citizens are sitting helplessly watching people ( our leaders) making the wrong decisions that negatively affect our lives and they cannot think on their feet. 

A very close friend of mine who happens to be a lecturer at the university I enrolled at said to me ‘get educated, and when things are getting really bad(which they are in my opinion), find a job abroad, get out of this shit hole’. To this day I’m still in this shit hole. It is only our leaders in government that would call this a great country, looking at it from the top might seem great. Yes, the view is always great at the top, and for some of us, the view is perfectly hideous. 

The country needs only two things, it needs leaders who are competent enough to lead. And it needs a bunch of new laws, rules. The South African laws are poor, they’re crazy, they cannot hold water. In all honesty, I’m not proud to be a South African, and our president is a shame, talking about him is a complete waste of time, he’s not worthy of my time to write about and definitely not worthy to be be praised for being president. 

We desperately need a lion as our leader so that the whole country will fight like that lion. Because currently we’re being led by a dog, our tails find their way between our legs when its time to stand and fight. Its never to late to turn things around. 

It would take me forever to write about how incompetent, poor, stupid and blind our leaders are. The only good thing they can be proud of in their leadership positions is that they can give out tenders and enrich themselves with taxpayers money. Every leader at the top hierarchy of state is rich, but not with ideas on how to take the country to glory. 

The only thing left for us, the powerless majority, is to cast our votes and pray for our stupid leaders. We pray not that God can make them better leaders or to give them intelligence, but not to survive hell they’re driving this country to.

Typical of the 21st century.

Its sad to even think that some people, actually a lot of people, including me, don’t live their dreams and that we survive. So many people make the wrong choices in life, perhaps driven by life itself to make decisions that only make life simple until the following day, and when its dawn that following day, it begins to rain, a rain of difficulties. Life becomes a battlefield with one’s self and eventually becoming unbearable 

To this day, with all the opportunities at our disposal the majority still opt for an easy way out of poverty. We all know what happens to everything that comes easy but i guess that’s the way for the 21st century. We go for a simple road, and for whoever goes for whats right yet complicated of some sort are giving the headlines of “The Insane”. Funny how everything is being done nowadays. I met a quote by Michael Ellner, it goes like; “Just look at us. Everything is backwards, everything is upside down. Doctors destroy health, lawyers destroy justice, psychiatrists destroy minds, scientists destroy truth, major media destroy information, religion destroy spirituality and governments destroy freedom” and I couldn’t agree more. 

Instead of living, we’re finding ways to survive. Instead of breathing, we’re suffocating. Instead of being happy, we look for happiness. Instead of finding ourselves, we lose ourselves. Instead of helping each other up, we’re taking each other down. Instead of loving ourselves, we love the world. Instead of settling for peace, we opt for war. Instead of giving a hug, we give our backs by walking away. Instead of going against the wind, we go with the wind. Instead of praying, we dehumanise others with bitter words. Instead of respecting, we belittle each other. Instead of seeking God, we chase money. Instead of fixing our souls, we take care of our flesh. Instead of listening, we talk. Instead of growing our minds, we grow older. And fools are our leaders,

Life in the 21st century is utterly insane. So insane that every wrong is right and vise versa. It is normal to make a wrong decision, and very my holy when you know you’re making it. The 21st century is a time when people don’t enjoy life because they’re busy trying to define it and trying to find their feet instead of letting your feet enjoy the unevenness of the earth. 

I guess that’s how we are supposed to live, a crazy life that it seems normal to the majority. I have a saying and it goes like; “I actually think everyone is crazy, or mad, perhaps the right word is Insane. I mean a few of us are insane of dreaming the perfect life, a life of glamour, utmost freedom and all sorts, and alot are insane of even not dreaming, not having the energy, the drive and the desire to live a life worth living.”

What’s only left is to blame the generation that past before us for our misery. 

Love…what it really means to men

What if I told you that the only word that exists in men’s pocket dictionary is sex? What would you say if I told you that all men are on a sex journey? And that it would take a thousand female sex therapists to differentiate between a man who loves sex and the one who is addicted

To all men, love means sex, sex and more sex then the rest will follow.  If you are a women and reading this, you probably thinking of closing this post and moving on because you might totally disagree with the above statement and as for a man you probably disagree because love itself is making your mind think in its pieces…think about it, would you even have dated her if you didn’t like her breast, her well shaped butt, her white hairy thighs? probably not.  

In a matter of fact we all love sex and that is clear from the men’s side, we can talk about nothing the whole day but sex, even make sensetive jokes about the act. It is just that women are so good at hiding the fact that they too love sex (at least to them one can argue that love is not completely about sex) it would take someone special for any lady to discuss the topic and it even surprises a lot of men in the bedroom at how much women love sex. It even gets to a point where she tells you how she loves to kick things off. 

So my lovely ladies, its all about sex to men. Yes, everything we do or like in a relationship other than sex is small, it doesn’t take too much room in our hearts, it comes in second or last and we’d probably skip it for sex. Can we have sex already? That’s the question on the mind of a man sitting opposite you on a table at the restaurant when meeting him for the first time. And the sixth time.  Men think about sex alot, it would even scare you if you had to live in a man’s brain for a day. This might be unpleasant to you but its the truth as far as my opinion is concerned.

Okay, let’s put it to the test. Have you ever asked your man what is it really love about you?! If you have then his answer started with a big “ahh” and went on like “babe why do you ask me that?” Right? Because men don’t really pay much attention to everything that is going on in the relationship. Sadly, including all the things he made a sweet poem about when he first told you how much you mean to him because sex has everything to do with it. If you haven’t asked him then brace yourself because his mind is going to collapse and his tongue is going to run around looking for words to escape the question. 

Men would do anything for sex…anything.

This is so true. In any relationship men are sex-driven. Men would do anything for sex and yet fail to make you breakfast for her lady, not that he never makes it but just that he’s not willing to. Ladies let me put eyes in your minds. How many times has he forgotten your birthday? Or maybe to pick up something important that belongs to you? Or make an appointment for you? Okay, I give him the benefit of a doubt that he innocently forgot…but that doesn’t mean I change my statement above 

Men would do anything for sex, they would risk their health (a man would sleep with a prostitute without protection), their lives (a man would travel between cities to get a good one), their careers ( a man would have sex with a colleague during working hours at a workplace), their marriage ( a man would sleep with your neighbour when you’re out due to work, even worse when your still around) and other things just to get over the feeling. 

Allow me to say this, sex is a big deal to men. And if you my darling can’t cook sex then you are off less use to a man. I’m not saying sex is EVERYTHING to men and I’m not saying men ONLY want to see your legs opened for them but I’m saying sex takes a big part in a man’s life thats why you’ll find that sex is one of the most talked about topics when guys are hanging out together, even for married men.